Sunday, October 30, 2005

A man's thoughts about women equality

First of all I want to apologize for not posting for a long time. I have been busy a lot, and at some time of desperation and boredom, I considered deleting the whole blog, because of my inactivity. At the end, I decided to stick with it, and update it whenever I can, even if that means one update every couple of months.

Here are a few thoughts of mine about women's rights:

The state of women in Syria is not that great, although we have to admit that it's better than many countries in the area and the east.

In Ancient Syria, our most important deities were goddesses. Ishtar/Astarte was our high goddess. Femininity, fertility, and beauty of women represented the most holy aspects of life and creation. Unfortunately, the jealous masculinity prevailed by influencing every aspect of our lives, from simple basic duties to bigger issues like leadership and religion.

Many people, when they argue against women equality with men, they say that women are different than men, and each have their own rights and duties. Their logic comes from understanding equality in this way:

a woman who's equal to men would wake up early, get her kids ready to go to school. Afterwards, she'd have to hurry to go to her job and work for many hours. She'd have to run back home to feed her children and husband. Then, she'd start her house chores: cleaning, cooking, teaching her kids...etc

According to these people, this equality is bad for women. Of course this is bad for women, but you can't call this equality. Women are not made to be maids, and men are not made to be served by women. Equality means that women and men have the right to do what they want, and BOTH OF THEM have to take care of their house and children.

If you're a man and you have children, they don't automatically become your women's children. It's your responsibility, like its hers, to raise your children and care about them. Also, doing some house chores (ex. cleaning your own mess) won't lower or degrade your manhood (a.k.a. Vanity). In the contrary, helping your wife makes you a part of the family, instead of being a mere financial provider, you'd become an important part of your family's life.

When this collaboration between men and women actually happen, things would become easy for both men and women. Only at that time, women will be able to work in a real equal atmosphere. Only then will men have a real connection with their own families.

The French feminist Simone de Beauvoire once said that women are often treated as a minority when the topic of equality is being approached. Are we blind? Or is it that the 50 - 50 % means nothing to our mathematically educated minds?

The most fact that bothers me when it comes to equality, is not the men who are used to be possessive and controlling for centuries. The annoying thing is when you see women not only accepting being submissive, but also praising their men and allowing them to have the "right" to beat them.

If we need a better society, then we have to use every aspect and every power that can contribute to it. We can't lay down 50% of the society and oppress it, and then wonder why we have many flaws and problems.

We should use 100% of our efforts to build up a good and healthy society. That means, men and women should unite and walk forward together step by step.